Just as we also have carefully thought out plans, we also have pipe dreams.
We all have those wild and crazy ideas that would be nice to achieve but we “know” just won’t ever work. These are ideals that we may dream about at bed time or just after lunch one day. You can think and even see them but the rational part of your mind knows that they’re impossible so it discounts them as just impractical fantasies and generally forgets about them.
On the flip side we have those carefully worked out plans that we think and re-think all the time and we “test out” and know will work because we’ve put in the time to manage expectations and to make sure they can be implemented before anything happens. We work and live through these every day.
Obviously, it’s bad to get hung up on a pipe dream and obsess over it to the point that you can’t function. Unfortunately I see this type of behavior too much among some of my peers. Obsessing about some material item, over some sort of achievement, over some love that got away from them. Many people chase these unattainable goals to the point that they disregard some or all other important aspects of their lives.
On the other hand it’s equally as bad to just live out a carefully scripted and planned life. If you only live a planned out existence you may find that opportunities that suddenly appear and offer themselves to you will be ignored or denied because they don’t fit in with your current plans. You may find that you deny yourself an advantage or may find that your original plan may actual be detrimental to you just because it didn’t fit in.
I think most people can tell what a plan looks like. A pipe dream is more difficult. We can often fool ourselves into thinking an outlandish pipe dream is really a reasonable plan. If we sit down however and look at it carefully and analyze it bit by bit we can often see the faults in the “reasonable plan” and see it for what it really is.
But like I said above, living only a planned life can be equally bad for you. So how can we live a balanced life where we keep our hopes and dreams alive but allow our plans to carry us ahead? We have to strike a balance. Live the daily life within our plans but always keep those pipe dreams at hand. Don’t totally deny them or discount them.
Even if you do chase after your pipe dream and ultimately fail, the journey, the process of trying to achieve that pipe dream may yield unexpected benefits, may open up new vistas and worlds that you didn’t previously know about.
Pipe dreams are sometimes the only things that can keep us moving forward when things are tough. Learn to control them, learn to tame them. But never let them die.
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